Obesity is a form of insecure attachment where unconditional love is absent in a person’s life. When a human does not attach to their parent or caregiver, they find something to attach to. Check out the article on secure and insecure attachment to learn more about this phenomenon. The obese person is someone who attaches to food as an outlet because there is no human to connect with. Understanding this can pay big dividends in your journey toward fitness and health. Let’s dive in.

UNDERSTANDING THE CONDITION

When you are obese, you put more calories into your body than you burn on a daily basis. It is literally that simple. To reverse the process, you need to burn more calories than you consume each day. However, if food is your outlet for stress, that will be a tough task to accomplish long-term.

CONTRIBUTING FACTORS

A lack of healthy love plays a major role in weight loss. There are exceptions, of course, but here we are focused on the obese person trying to lose weight. If you have unhealthy self-love, you put yourself before everyone and carry your rage in your body. It is difficult to make improvements since you are self-centered and think you are already perfect. Your body records all of this in your appearance and weight. If you lack self-love and those around you alienate you, it will be hard to get the motivation to do what is healthy for you. Hence, you may start a program, get discouraged by those around you rather than empowered, and go back to your outlet, food. This will effectively erase the results the program helped you achieve.

It is highly important to have healthy self-love if you are obese and want to lose weight. Those who love you, and all you need is a love of self, will help you achieve your goals because being overweight is deadly. Hence, with real love around you, you will be encouraged not to be overweight, which will help keep the weight off. You only need self-love to make the changes; it is not necessary to involve others.

Health is very important to a human being. Obese people suffer from all sorts of problems, especially as they get older. Anybody who loves you, including yourself, would not want you to suffer from these problems. I remember when my knees started to hurt after I went up too many stairs. I had no clue I was obese from abuse; it just sort of crept in.

ADDRESSING THE SOURCE OF THE PROBLEM

Many obese people who pursue physical fitness often start with a personal trainer and may make good gains. However, as soon as the trainer exits, so do their results. This has a lot to do with self-love and doing what it takes to care for your future self. The lack of self-love or genuine love around you is why the gains made while someone else was fulfilling that role fade when they leave. In addition, it’s possible the abuses you’ve suffered that made you attach to food in the first place come rearing their head back when the sessions are over. Lifting weights or running for cardio are secondary to the psychological health needed to sustain weight loss.

HIRE SOMEONE VERSUS TAKE IT ON YOURSELF

Hiring a personal trainer can teach you the right techniques to get you started. Some trainers, myself included, have advanced knowledge that can increase your gains at a much better level. However, taking it on yourself as a do-it-yourselfer can give you the courage to learn independently. It will show you that you were able to do it, which will make you feel better and increase your self-love.

I do not recommend paying a ton of money just because you are lazy, because the gains will eventually fall back for the reasons already described above. Rather, if you want to make big gains and get it right the first time, hire a trainer for a bit to learn the ropes, use your self-love to learn more advanced training routines, and keep yourself in shape. Taking it on as a do-it-yourselfer is prone to more mistakes (as with any new endeavor), but it can give you a sense of accomplishment if you are able to conquer it and make significant gains.

CONCLUSION

In both cases, your self-love must come into play to continue the gains from the early days. Your loved ones must continue to encourage you because they care about you and want you to be around for a long time. Without this support, you are vulnerable to falling back into old habits and attaching to food to escape your pain. It is not necessary to have loved ones encourage you, so long as you have love for yourself. If you have self-love, you have won the game of life; anything else is just cherries on top. Make sure to get in shape to love yourself, not to show off on an ego trip. The world humbles all egos. Now get out there and get your obese body fit, so you can live your best life!